When an event happens no matter how you perceive it (good or bad). This event will cause you to think about it and then you will have a feeling on how you feel about it which will cause you to behave a certain way.

Let’s take the example of losing a game.

Initially, you can think about it in 2 ways be it was my fault or someone else’s or you can take it as a learning opportunity. Both have very different thoughts feelings and behavior.

Going down the blame game you can feel mad, angry, sad, etc. and this will cause you to have negative feelings which in turn will cause you to act out in some form of negative manner. 

On the other hand, if you think of it as a learning opportunity you will start to think about the things you can do better the next time. This will give you feelings of hope, excitement to improve, and a positive outlook on your future. 

The event is the same it’s how you decided to think about it that started the cycle.

The real question you need to always ask yourself is how is this event going to help me in my future endeavors. This will start to shape your whole life as you will start to see new opportunities in just about every event in your life. Instead of seeing life events as a Brick wall, it will be more like a Stoplight that is briefly stopping you so you can make a decision on which way you want to go when it turns green. 

Take your time when an event happens and stay calm, think how you can use it to better your position in life then write your worst system ever and start down that road.

What positive things can you think about that will change the way you feel and get you the positive behavior that will allow you to succeed?

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How will this make you feel?

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What will be the behavior that will help you succeed?

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What additional thoughts do you have on this?

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